How soon two months of the new year have flown by us!
Towards the end of 2016, I learned a harsh lesson and learned how to cut off toxic people from my life. It really felt like a breath of fresh air! Getting angry and giving an intense reaction was the easy way out and it would have been so convenient to choose it. But I chose to give a cold shoulder - something I thought I could never do. For me the most important thing was that my kids were watching my reaction and they were simultaneously imbibing. At that time, I felt a bit like the lion in this pic below :D
I realised that only when we stick up for ourselves and prioritize our feelings and emotions - will other people do the same. We need to be stronger and sometimes more vocal - not to be confused with being rude. Being vocal is being assertive - and yes it can be done very politely.
Here's something cute that has been doing the rounds on the internet lately - How to convert your 'sorrys' into 'thank yous'. Reducing the number of unnecessary sorrys - also aids projecting a more self-confident version of ourselves.
One of the images I liked from that link is this one below. What a difference words can make!
Vocalising is so important - it is something I am learning along the way. Body language and mannerisms that accompany the words - can change the meaning altogether. Assertiveness is important and so is realising the importance of self-respect.
If there's one thing I am working on changing in myself this year, it is my reactions to unpleasant situations. I want to be calmer, I want to be more composed. It would be more of a personality overhaul, I guess. Over time, I have realised that people who intentionally want to hurt us by way of their words or actions, are fuelled by our reactions.
The easiest way out is to keep quiet - and let them know they have not affected you in any way. Barking dogs, seldom bite.
Here's to a year of positivity, a year of making slow and gradual changes. Wish me luck!! :D
2 comments:
What a lovely post Urmila. Yes prioritizing and able to check your emotions is very important which most of us are not able to do.
Keep writing
Amazing. This is so close to the feeling so many of us are going through at this age amd time i guess. I love how you have given importance to kids imbibing what you do!
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